We often think of joy as something to be pursued—a destination we reach once we’ve checked enough boxes. We tell ourselves we’ll be happy when we land the right title, secure the perfect home, or finally feel «in control» of our lives.

But in his latest seminar, Diego Gesualdi challenges this pursuit. He suggests that joy isn’t something we find out there; it’s something we uncover by looking inward at the habits that keep us heavy.

The Weight of Our Invisible Habits

From the moment we wake up, we are often performing. Without even realizing it, we carry a heavy backpack of «surface» needs:

• The Search for Approval: Acting to please others rather than honoring ourselves.
• The Need for Control: Trying to micromanage a world that is inherently unpredictable.
• The Grip of Titles: Defining our worth by our professional roles or social status.

Diego invites us to look gently at these patterns. These aren’t «bad» traits, but they are «invisible patterns» that create a barrier between us and the present moment. By clinging to certainty, we inadvertently distance ourselves from the ease we crave.

Uncertainty as a Teacher

How do we move from this cluttered surface to our quiet center? The answer, Diego suggests, lies in the very thing we usually avoid: Uncertainty.

While the mind seeks comfort in the known, the heart finds freedom in the unknown. Through the practice of meditation, Diego guides us into a space where we can finally drop the heavy backpack.

Finding Your Inner Clarity

When we stop trying to control the narrative of our lives, something remarkable happens. The door opens to:

1. Greater Enjoyment: Finding pleasure in the «now» rather than the «next.»
2. Ease: Navigating challenges without the friction of ego.
3. Inner Clarity: Seeing ourselves for who we are, not what we do.

This journey is an invitation to move away from the conditioned habits of the surface and sink into the deep center where joy naturally arises—not because we earned it, but because it was always there.